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 How to Flirt in French

Draguer is the French art of flirting. It differs from flirting in other parts of the world in that there is not always an endgame. French flirting can sometimes be the end, not just the means!

Learning to flirt à la française means learning how to be quick on your feet. Guys are brazen and unafraid. Girls tend to say “no” when they mean “yes.” To start to get your flirting game on-par, here are some phrases to try out with a mec or nana who’s caught your eye.

1. Je peux vous offrir un verre ?

Un verre in French means not only a glass but also a drink. To offer to buy someone un verre is the equivalent of offering to buy them a drink. The universal language of romance, n’est-ce pas ?

2. Vous venez souvent ici ?

Yet another phrase that transcends cultural barriers: “Do you come here often?” Don’t be put off if the sentence is followed up by complaints — about the bartender, about the clients or about how the bar isn’t as good as it used to be. Yet another French tradition is râler, a sort of complaining. Finding common things to complain about is a way that many French people choose to bond with new acquaintances. Of course, this isn’t true of everyone. Wait for an indication from your interlocutor before beginning a stream of complaints!

3. Vous êtes célibataire ? Mais comment est-ce possible ?

Flattery will get you far. When in doubt, play the fool with this sentence: “You’re single? But how is that possible?”

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When you’ve moved past flattery and flirting, seduction is next.

4. On peut se tutoyer ?

You can’t seduce from a distance. When you feel that the moment is ripe, suggest a switch from the formal vous to the informal tu with this sentence. The question is requesting that you both speak more informally and implies that you are starting to feel close to your interlocutor. Using tu will only bring you closer. Switching around like this can be tricky for newcomers to French, so if necessary be sure to go back and review your French grammar in anticipation of this moment.

5. T’as de beaux yeux, tu sais ?

“You have beautiful eyes.” This sentence works in pretty much any language, but if it works so well in French, it’s because it’s also a quote from a classic French film called Le quai des brumes. Any French cinema lover will have dreamed of having this sentence said to them — if you can pull it off as well as Jean Gabin, you’re good to go! If you’re feeling nervous about speaking all these lines smoothly enough, try asking your language exchange partner to practice flirting with you.

6. “J’ai une première édition de ‘À la recherche du temps perdu.’ Tu veux le voir ?”

“I have the first edition of “In Search of Lost Time.” Do you want to see it?” In France, cultural knowledge is sexy. There’s no question about it. It’s said that you can identify a Frenchman when he says that his summer plans are to reread Proust — bearing in mind that for many, rereading will actually constitute their first brush with the genius of this 20th century French writer.

In Sweden, proposals to go home with someone at a bar are often phrased by asking if said individual would like to see your stamp collection. In America, we often ask if you’d like a nightcap. Choose something cultural and intellectual in France, and you’re far more likely to get a ouiThere’s plenty of great French literature and classic French films that you could watch to improve your cultural knowledge in this regard.

7. J’ai envie de t’embrasser.

This phrase lets the other person know you’d like to kiss them. Of course, when you feel the time is right you could just lean in for a kiss. But letting the other person wait is one of the keys to the French technique of drague, so use you new language skills to make your intentions known before going in for the kill.

This sentence is best executed accompanied with a lengthy stare into the beaux yeux of your interlocutor. If he or she doesn’t laugh, turn their head or throw their glass of Bordeaux in your face, it’s time to make good on your promise!

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Once you’ve reeled in the one you like, it’s time to turn that evening of romance into something more permanent. Make love last with these romantic French phrases.

 
 
 

8. Je t’aime.

What could be more simple, and yet more useful? While the verb aimer is often translated into “like” in English, Je t’aime is the French way of saying “I love you.” (Careful! “I like you” is Je t’aime bien. Don’t get confused!)

Culturally, you’ll find that French people often drop the L-bomb (or A-bomb, in this case) much earlier than their American counterparts. Don’t be worried if you hear it within a few weeks of beginning to date someone new.

9. Veux-tu m’épouser ?

When you’ve moved past je t’aime, it might be time to pop the big question. Unlike in English, it’s not “will you” but “do you want to marry me?” that is asked. Of course, that’s just semantics if the answer is oui!

10. Je veux passer ma vie avec toi.

Whether this is said before or after the big question, the sentiment is sure to speak volumes. “I want to spend my life with you” is the perfect way to communicate the depth of your feelings for the one you care about.

 
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